How do you deal with your emotions?
Are you releasing or recycling?
So I just learnt about this concept. When we are dealing with any of our challenges we are either actively releasing our emotions or recycling them.
Releasing is when we have dealt with our emotions – actively. And the time span for this is different for us all as we are all different. And then we get to a stage where we release our emotions and we begin to heal. This is when you start to feel ease, peace and calm within and you are actively getting on with your life – no more random tear sessions when hearing that song or seeing that picture.
Recycling is the stage where we keep repeating and repeating. We go through the whole ‘Why?’ syndrome. It is something I have also done and sometimes I have deliberately allowed myself to stay down this road longer than I should have and I have ‘suffered’ the consequences and yes recycled suffering is optional – we have within us the ability to switch into the now and be OK only if we give ourselves permission.
God has something awesome planned for us and that He does not burden our souls more than we can handle.
Many people stay stuck in the recycling stage and so did I – especially in my teens and twenties.
I guess it’s because it is comforting – as in, we get used to our comfort zone and don’t want to stretch ourselves but deep inside we know that if we do stretch ourselves we will learn and grow.
Releasing one’s emotions doesn’t happen overnight – especially when it involves the loss of a loved one. We naturally go through phases to understand it all and be OK.
Another thing is that many times we – yes females and males – were brought up to just ‘deal with it and get over it’ yet that same advice-giving person would be eating their own words. (We’ve all experienced that.)
Healing begins as soon as we accept that God has something awesome planned for us and that He does not burden our souls more than we can handle and that He already knows we can handle it and He is looking at our response – whether we’ll be grateful or ungrateful and how we will react. Healing begins when we understand our emotions and what triggers us and we realise that we have the power to change our state by changing our thoughts as we create our thoughts and we can direct them where we want.
Healing begins when we let go and let God.
I hope this helps! :)
O you who have believed, upon you is [responsibility for] yourselves. Those who have gone astray will not harm you when you have been guided. To Allah is your return all together; then He will inform you of what you used to do.
The Qur’an, Surah Al-Maa’idah (Chapter of the table spread) 5:105
Nadia Leona Yunis is YMM’s Islamic Editor; this transformational article was first published on her Islamic personal development site ‘We Be Inspired’.