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Assalaam ‘alaykum/Peace be with you,
We have scheduled our mini issue for Christmas especially for all you young Muslimahs who are spending a quiet day with family and with your own personal reflections masha’Allah.
Perhaps you will pick up a pen and explore your thoughts through writing. Perhaps you will read the writing of others and then pause to connect insights to your personal life circumstances. Perhaps you will make extra time for reciting the words of Allah SWT.
Insha’Allah I am poised ready for the January sales insha’Allah to get an mp3 player for listening to the Qur’an. How about you?
Of course, we’ll be aware that many of our neighbours will be spending the day differently to us, and will be enjoying a sense of belonging between themselves that we can’t join. Alhamdulillah I am keen to find opportunities to please Allah SWT within Christmas traditions since I used to be Christian.
For example, non-Muslims are accustomed to – and often welcome – sending cards and gifts at this time of year so I like to fulfil the Sunnah of reaching out to my neighbours by delivering ‘Peace Greetings’ cards. Also, I like to endeavour to increase love between family, friends, and acquaintances by giving presents. This year I wrote a Muslim version of the song ‘Away in a Manger’.
I am careful to check that my intentions are to practise Islam and that I am not absently joining in with popular activities, alhamdulillah. Insha’Allah my long term intention is to make foundations for sending iftar invitations and Eid gifts that are welcomed.
This ‘holiday’, have you taken up opportunities for building and strengthening social ties? Have you made space within quiet times for personal reflection? Bismillah, insha’Allah it’s never too late to make istikhara and find opportunities to take action.
However, it’s important not to pressure ourselves. We all celebrate Eid differently. Naturally, our personal experiences of other times, and all times, will be different too.
In this mini issue we have a couple of new poems to inspire you, some republications, and some quotes from forthcoming interviews in our next main issue, mid February insha’Allah.
Subhanallah life is often not easy and we grow enormously because of the opportunities we discover within struggles. Insha’Allah we’ll go into the concept of hardship in our mid February issue ‘Difficult Discussions’.
… Speaking of which, submissions close Dec 31st so if you pick up a pen today your submission could be ready in time insha’Allah.
May Allah grant you ease, ameen.
Ma salaama,
Elizabeth Lymer (Editor)

{O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.}

The Qur’an, Surah Hujuraat (chapter of the rooms) 49:13

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Today’s post is a reflection post. I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to it. It comes after, well, a lot of reflection…. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you’re from, it’s like we all have to go through this in our life. Once, twice, thrice … until we get the message, learn the lesson, and move on.

It’s like, you set out to do good and spread good, but there is always someone who will shake a pointy finger at you and say, “Well, that’s just not good enough!” or, “You’re wrong!”

You know, it could have even started very young. At school, maybe. Your teacher didn’t like your drawing when you were in reception class age four/five. You thought you were creating a masterpiece with your house and four windows, a door in the middle, a pathway leading to the front gates, a tree and a cat – but she clearly thought otherwise! (And no, that didn’t happen to me and yes I did draw that drawing, and, admit it, so did you!)

It could have happened in later life. Your parents/siblings/friends pointed that pointy finger, rolled their eyes, and chorused, “You just can’t ever get it right, can you?!”

Ever had that happen to you? Like, over and over and …


It’s like a punch in the face and instant knock out. You’re trying to get up and recover and there goes the bell for round two!

*Double ouch!*

Why do we allow ourselves to get hurt this way? In fact, why do we do things to always please others or get approval?


It’s a proven psychological fact (you can google it) that humans have six basic needs. This theory was proposed by Maslow in 1943 in his paper ‘A Theory of Human Motivation’. In later years, Tony Robbins (a Guru of Personal Development by whom yours truly is heavily inspired, motivated, and influenced) came up with his own six basic needs. Both Maslow and Robbins state that one of these needs is love/connection/belonging and another is significance (Robbins).

We want to be and feel loved. We want to be and feel connected. We want to belong, either to immediate loved ones or in larger social groups (social acceptance). We want to be, and feel, significant.

These are almost like our survival tools and, to an extent, a healthy dose of each is required for the healthy and holistic development of a human being.

However, what can happen is that we get to a stage in life where we are always looking for approval and doing things to get attention so we feel significant – important – worthy.

This may even lead us sometimes to do or act in unhealthy or immoral ways. Just so we get that approval.

If you’ve ever been through any of that then know that it’s OK because what you were doing was being human (by the way, I don’t condone immorality).

All humans do this! The correct way to embrace this humanity would be if parents/teachers/guardians gave children the correct form of encouragement and support at an early age – then, even through our failures, we wouldn’t be so messed up today.

*Eureka Moment!*

That’s why I said at the beginning we’ve ALL been through it.

Because it started young and was embedded in us (usually around age six) and we started to look for acceptance and feel low and sad if discouraged, it stayed with us. It’s in our subconscious. It might even be eating you up right now!

*Is it?*

So, even if your friends or family do this to you, then realise that even they have been through it.

It’s like a sad, vicious, psychological cycle!


But it’s time to break FREE. When? NOW!

Allah (SWT) has sent down a book of guidance. In it are treasures.

This book – the Qur’an – is a guidance for mankind and therein lie all the answers.

Do YOU want to stop this ‘pleasing everyone’ and looking for acceptance and feeling significant (beyond what is required as a basic need)? Then for YOU the Qur’an has a message.…

Ready? Bismillah….

[Say: “Verily, my Salah (Prayer), my sacrifice, my living, and my dying are for Allah, the Lord of ALL that exists.”}

The Qur’an, Surah Al-’An’aam (chapter of the cattle) 6:162

That’s it! That’s the one!

Nadia Leona Yunis is a mentor and coach of Islamic personal and spiritual development for her organisation We Be Inspired and this article was first published on her We be Inspired blog. She is also the Islamic Editor for Young Muslimah Magazine.

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Every day dawns with Your Name, as the sun rises up with Your praise on my lips.

Every night finds my knees and head on the ground, as You are the First and Last on my mind.

In the stillness of my heart. I speak to You.

And I know You hear me. You answer simply, perfectly. A beautiful touch. A warm smile.
And I feel renewed.

{So exalt [ Allah ] with praise of your Lord and be of those who prostrate [to Him].}

The Qur’an, Surah Al-Hijr (chapter of the rocky tract) 15:98

Saira Anwar shares poetry via her Inspired Poetry Facebook page, she is author of The Death of a Beautiful Dream, and she is a member of the Muslimah Writers Alliance.

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You were the one that protected me no matter what,

You would never even think of leaving me to rot.

Whereas all these people don’t think twice,

They all pretence about being nice!!!!

Everyone is here, not like you were though,

It’s on and off, more like a show.

I wish you were here with me too,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

I thank you for all the knowledge and wisdom we got,

I know this will keep me off the streets, selling that pot.

Wish you could see me grow and progress,

Just remember I’m still your baby girl, nothing less.

We had our fair share of arguments, disagreements, fights,

But thanks to you, we always knew our wrongs from rights.

You were a father and loved us too,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

You were ill; a few things came out of the blue,

That damn hospital is crap, we should sue.

They took you from me, your kids, your wife,

When you were with us, you actually had a life.

But then I think, what would that achieve,

No matter what, you were destined to leave.

You had a special place upstairs, and Allah called you,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

You had pneumonia, cancer, a collapsed lung, 2 strokes and infections,

It was confusing as you kept changing wards and sections.

We saw you good and bad-you fell and rose again,

I lost count of the times you rose, definitely more than ten.

I have to admit I was proud of you, till now I say mashallah,

Just wish I could have done more, like prayed a lot more salah.

We all prayed, some more than others, for you,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

You left with a bit of a struggle and so much more,

They should have investigated it to the core.

I hated you because on the second of May, you stole from me,

You took a big part, I will never be able to see.

That day felt like the end of the world,

I laughed but secretly I could have hurled.

I was smiling for show, crying in the loo,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

The days went by like years,

Everyone cried, and I was there to wipe tears.

I wanted to cry as much as they did,

Instead I laughed and joked like an innocent kid.

I was looked at funny and told to cry,

I said I was fine, and started to believe this lie.

I should have cried but wanted to be strong like you too,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

Days went by, people came and went,

Yet, I always wondered around, in need of your scent.

I couldn’t sleep on your bed or in your room,

I was stuck in darkness, a circle of gloom.

When I finally came around to realising you’re not on holiday,

It was way gone over the month of May.

Till this day, I’m scared to think of you too,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you.

I get lost in my own world for quite some time,

This is how I got started on this rhyme.

I will always miss your presence,

This is probably why my life is so tense.

I always believe you will come back,

But this is something my mind tends to lack.

So just remember you are always in my heart too,

This is why Daddy, I can’t wait to see you….

{Our Lord, indeed we have heard a caller calling to faith, [saying], ‘Believe in your Lord, ’ and we have believed. Our Lord, so forgive us our sins and remove from us our misdeeds and cause us to die with the righteous.}

The Qur’an, Surah Ali-Imraan (chapter of the family of Imran) 3:193

This is the second of a series insha’Allah of three poems by Humera Amir.

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I Can’t Breathe
Do you see me?
. . . I ask because I’m dying
Can you hear me?
. . . Right before your eyes
Who am I to you?
. . . Often times by your hand
What am I to you?
. . . And you don’t appear to care
I am here
Shouting in silence
Bleeding in misery
Picking up the pieces of my broken family
Does my dark skin scare you?
Is my hijab, to you, a threat?
Look – hands up – don’t shoot!
I surrender
I am human too
See my humanity
Hear my humanity
Know me . . .
We were made of these diversities so that we may know one another
Not so that we may despise one another
I can’t breathe
You’re suffocating me
Where is my brother’s keeper? . . . .

{Then He proportioned him and breathed into him from His [created] soul and made for you hearing and vision and hearts; little are you grateful.}

The Qur’an, Surah As-Sajdah (chapter of the prostration) 32:9

Janette Grant is author of Redemption Song and Co-editor and contributor of The Muslimah Speaks: Her Voice, Her Spirit. She is also a published novelist, the owner of Mindworks Publishing, and a member of the Muslimah Writers Alliance (MWA) and this poem was first published on the MWA blog.

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A Muslim song about Jesus/’Eesa AS to the tune of Away in a Manger:

The birth of a baby is special and dear;

Some celebrate birthdays with joy every year,

But one favoured boy had a miracle birth –

A mercy and sign to all people on earth.

He is the Messiah, upon him be peace,

A messenger prophet, by Allah’s decree:

He spoke in the cradle, breathed life in clay birds;

He healed many people and spread Allah’s words.

Although there’s no Eid for him or special day,

We’re mindful of ‘Eesa each time that we pray,

For peace on one prophet means peace on them all

And prayer with belief is the message they called.

{And there is none from the People of the Scripture but that he will surely believe in Jesus before his death. And on the Day of Resurrection he will be against them a witness.}

The Qur’an, Surah An-Nisaa’ (chapter of the women) 4:159

Elizabeth Lymer is author of Islamic Nursery Rhymes and Religious Rhyme Time. She frequently shares nursery rhymes via her YouTube channel, Rhymes and Stories website,  and Islamic Nursery Rhymes Facebook page, and has recently started blogging on Goodreads, where these song lyrics were published. She is also Editor of Young Muslimah Magazine and a member of the Muslimah Writers Alliance.

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Love is a powerful theme that features throughout history, with the power to launch a thousand ships or destroy a country. Zainab bint RasulAllah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) is an example of the strength of love and a Muslim woman’s patience and courage.

Although her story does not feature as prominently in Islamic history as some other Sahabiyaat such as her mother, Khadijah, or her step-mother A’ishah, she experienced one of the most difficult struggles faced by Muslim women: the battle between true love and spiritual conviction.

Zainab bint RasulAllah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) married her maternal cousin Abu’l ‘Aas ibn Rabee’ before the onset of her father’s prophethood. They loved each other dearly, and their marriage was one of the happiest in all of Makkah.

The first year of RasulAllah’s Prophethood was a difficult one for Zainab. She instantly believed in her father’s Divine Message, but unfortunately, Abu’l ‘Aas refused to accept Islam. Citing the anger of Quraysh as an excuse, Abu’l ‘Aas continued to love and protect his wife, but did not choose to share her faith.

When RasulAllah made his hijrah to Madinah, Zainab requested that she be allowed to stay with her husband, who was still a non-Muslim. In the months that followed, she was the only believer left within the boundaries of Makkah.

Parted from her family, isolated from other Muslims, Zainab found comfort in the love that she shared with Abu’l ‘Aas.

However, after the Battle of Badr, during which Abu’l ‘Aas was taken prisoner by the Muslims, the command came from Allah that no Muslim woman was allowed to stay with her non-Muslim husband. RasulAllah accepted Abu’l ‘Aas’ ransom payment and released him, but he also instructed him to send Zainab to Madinah.

As much as this second parting with her husband made her heart ache even more, Zainab’s commitment to Allah’s Pleasure over her own demanded that she obey His Command.

Her arduous journey to Madinah, which involved her being ambushed and suffering a miscarriage, reminded her every moment that she was sacrificing the safety and solace of her husband’s love for a life of difficulty. Instead of turning back, instead of using her husband’s protection for her practice of Islam as an excuse to defy the direct order of Allah, she drew upon the strength of her emaan to overcome the pain of losing the love of her life.

Zainab remained in Madinah, refusing to remarry, while Abu’l ‘Aas continued to live in Makkah, anguished at the separation from his wife. Eventually, a sequence of events resulted in his recapture by the Muslims, who brought him to Madinah. Overwhelmed to know that her beloved was near, Zainab publicly announced that she was providing sanctuary to Abu’l ‘Aas. Smiling, RasulAllah accepted her claim of protection and released him into her care, but with the warning that they could not live together as husband and wife. After some time, Abu’l ‘Aas finally accepted Islam, and their reunion was complete.

Today, many Muslim women try to justify their choice to marry non-Muslim men by saying that these men love them for who they are and respect their faith. But if the daughter of the Messenger of Allah was commanded to leave her non-Muslim husband, who loved her passionately and never prevented her from practising Islam, how can we make the excuse that our transient, mortal love is worth defying Allah?

It is sincere sacrifice, out of true love for Allah, that will grant us both the sweetness of mortal love as well as that of the Divine. It is the decision to choose our love for the Divine over the transience of worldly love, that will truly determine the strength of our spiritual courage and make us worthy of Allah’s Divine Love in return.

Zainab bint Younus (AnonyMouse) is a young woman who finds constant inspiration in the lives of the Sahabiyaat and other great women in Islamic history. She hopes that every Muslimah is able to identify with the struggles of these inspirational women and follow in their footsteps to become a part of a new generation of powerful Muslim women. She blogs at http://www.thesalafifeminist.blogspot.com where this article was published.

{By which Allah guides those who pursue His pleasure to the ways of peace and brings them out from darknesses into the light, by His permission, and guides them to a straight path.}

The Qur’an, Surah Al-Maa’idah (chapter of the table spread) 5:16

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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, the saying goes, and even Islamic history is a testament to the statement. Women are powerful figures, whether as heroines or villains, and the role they play in every great story cannot be denied. A woman’s love, or a woman’s hatred, can change the course of battles, can shatter hearts, and can create victory out of ashes.

Such women play a large role in Islamic history; great heroines who are known for their purity of spirit and magnitude of sacrifice. However, amongst the women of the early Muslim Ummah, was someone who was not always pure and innocent, someone whose life was devoted to anger, to hatred, to destroying Islam itself.

In the books of seerah, Hind bint ‘Utbah emerges as a ferocious figure, an infamous villainess who devoted a large part of her life to bringing down her sworn enemy, the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). Although she was the wife of the Prophet’s distant cousin, the Qurayshi chieftain Abu Sufyan, Hind was most known for her relationship with RasulAllah: she was one of his earliest enemies, and one of those most dedicated to undermining and defeating him.

Perhaps her most infamous act, Hind commanded her slave Wahshi ibn Harb to hunt down Hamza ibn Abdul Muttalib on the battlefield of Uhud in retaliation for the death of her father and brothers at the hands of the Muslim army at the battle of Badr. Determined to wreak the most of her vengeance, Hind cut out Hamza’s liver and chewed it raw before spitting out on the gory remains of the battlefield.

RasulAllah’s grief and anger were so pronounced when he heard of this act, that it was recorded by Abdullah ibn Mas’ud that, “We have never seen the Messenger of Allah weeping so much as he was for Hamza bin ‘Abdul Muttalib. He directed him towards Al-Qiblah, then he stood at his funeral and sobbed his heart out.”

In the narrations that discuss the strength of Hind’s enmity towards Islam, certain characteristics can’t help but be noticed: her fierce sense of honour, the passion behind her beliefs, the iron determination that fuelled all her actions.

It is not recorded that they met in person until after the Conquest of Makkah (although that may have happened, due to their familial relationship), but it is obvious that RasulAllah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was aware of her as an individual, and of her role in the Makkah-based opposition against him.

Hind bint ‘Utbah accepted Islam after the Conquest of Makkah, and the narration regarding her conversion is a fascinating one.

She approached the tent of RasulAllah (sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), veiled and surrounded by other women of Makkah. As RasulAllah took the bay’ah (oath of allegiance) from these women, he informed them,

“You will accept that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah.”

Hind answered, “We accept.”

“You shall not steal.”

Hind answered, “My husband is a miser, and I take only enough for myself and my children.”

“You shall not commit adultery.”

Hind retorted, “Does a free woman commit adultery?!”

After RasulAllah accepted the bay’ah from these women, Hind uncovered her face and said, “I am Hind bint ‘Utbah.”

RasulAllah immediately understood what she meant by that statement. She, the woman who had waged such a strong campaign against him for so long, who had ordered the assassination of his beloved uncle, had just professed her Islam.

Despite the emotions that must have been going through him upon this realization, RasulAllah answered calmly, “Welcome, O Hind!”

Hind continued, “By Allah, there was no house on earth that I wanted to destroy more than your house. Now, there is no house on earth that I so dearly with to honour and raise in glory than yours.”

Even now, when most women would be humiliated to present themselves to the person who had been their avowed enemy for so long, Hind bint Utbah was a woman whose pride and self-respect would not allow her to give into humiliation. Even when she surrendered to RasulAllah and accepted Islam, she did so with a dignity and fierce pride that remain an example to all Muslim women.

In return, the Messenger of Allah did not insult her, turn her away, denigrate her, or otherwise reject her. He treated his former enemy with all the grace and dignity befitting him, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.

After her acceptance of Islam, Hind channeled her passionate energy for the sake of Allah. Just as she used to sing fierce poetry on the battlefield to spur the Qurayshi troops, she now walked along the lines of the Muslim army, reciting powerful verses to keep the Muslim soldiers steadfast. She was present at the Battle of Yarmuk, and narrated several ahadeeth that were recorded and authenticated in various books of ahadeeth.

Hind remains an integral part of Islamic history, an example for Muslim women around the world. She remains a symbol of ferocity, of power, and integrity; proof that hatred can turn to love, that enmity can become the purest allegiance. Hind was, and is, proof that having a spotless past is not a requirement for accepting Islam, or of being a good Muslim woman; only sincerity of heart and purity of faith matter.

Zainab bint Younus (AnonyMouse) is a young woman who finds constant inspiration in the lives of the Sahabiyaat and other great women in Islamic history. She hopes that every Muslimah is able to identify with the struggles of these inspirational women and follow in their footsteps to become a part of a new generation of powerful Muslim women. She blogs at http://www.thesalafifeminist.blogspot.com where this article was published.

{Indeed, Allah is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him. That is the straight path.}

The Qur’an, Surah ‘Ali Imraan (chapter of the family of Imran) 3:51

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God created you for a reason – for a purpose.

Each moment is teaching you a lesson and this lesson is shaping up the human you are meant to be – the human you are being right now.

The only thing is how you perceive it and how you react.

This will determine your path in life and what you achieve.

I know it hurts deep and it’s confusing – especially when it happens over and over again and you just don’t get it and you’re like, “why me?!”

God will give you the same lesson over and over until you are ready to learn the lesson and move on.

You give meaning to whatever is happening in your life right now but God only gives us what we can handle.

Even a prick of a thorn is a purification but for some it shatters them completely – it all depends on how YOU want to perceive it now.

It all depends on how you control your thoughts and we can control our thoughts – don’t let them control you.

Your unique purpose is unique to you and God ultimately created you to worship Him alone.

We are on a journey; this journey will take us back home – back to God and His Heaven

Each moment is our only moment and this moment, my dearest diamond soul, is all you and I have – how will YOU use this moment?

Do not fear or lose hope or despair – close your eyes, focus on your breathing, and let the Light into your soul. God is with you … always and forever. It’s time to create those positive changes in our life, live upon the deen, and prepare for our best akhirah now.

It’s time to live a life on purpose with purpose.

Take a deep breath in – release and now receive love, du’as, and light.

Hope this helps on your journey now! :)

Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an: {And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me (alone).}

Surah Ad-Daareeyaat (chapter of the winnowing winds) 51:56

Nadia Leona Yunis is a mentor and coach of Islamic personal and spiritual development for her organisation We Be Inspired and this article was first published on her We Be Inspired blog. She is also the Islamic Editor for Young Muslimah Magazine.

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Success is personal and everyone has their own definition of it. And that’s cool.

Some would define success as academic achievements, some as moving up the career ladder or promotion, some as being the best parent/child/spouse, some as been able to pray every night and read a few pages of Qur’an every single day, and some would define it as a combination of all.

Again, that’s cool because each one of us is different and each one of us has different dreams and hopes and wishes to achieve.

All successful people – in whatever they are successful in – have daily routines and habits that they have established.

The western personal development gurus swear by them and are always teaching and drilling these routines and habits into their students.

Obviously they got it from Islam! :D

For instance we are taught by Rasool Allah (peace be upon him) that he would make the following du’a:

He said: “O Allah, bless my Ummah in its early hours.”

The early hours are the best. Praying night prayer in the last third of the night. Then praying Fajr and then reading some Qur’an. It’s also one of the best times to read Qur’an as it’s witnessed and recorded by the angels. And then follow this with quiet contemplation or in other words dhikr-Allah. Recite some tasbee, focus on the meaning. It will help quieten the mind of useless chatter and help us focus better.

There’s a reason why many meditate and do yoga in the early hours and that’s one of the reasons they can have laser focus and achieve so much!

So, we need to develop some positive habits and routines.

If you haven’t already then master the morning prayer routine and then add your mantras to it.

What are these mantras?

They are like statements – positive statements – repeated often which get us into a positive mindset and help us focus on the task at hand or our long term goals.

What is YOUR mantra?

Would you like to succeed and continuously have that ‘energy switch’ which gets you onto top form, as and when you need it? Then it’s time to create YOUR ‘Unique Success Mantra’ (if you haven’t already).

Read it, memorize it, and switch into ‘Excel-Mode’ as and when you need to.

But before we begin – we need to clear the clutter and have a soulful therapy moment.

We need to get rid of the trash from our soul and know that ‘things will happen’ – yes they will; that’s the nature of our lives. Even if you’re the happiest care-free soul, it doesn’t mean you won’t be put into compromising situations. Even if issues are not to do with you directly, but rather a loved one, friends, or colleagues – sometimes intimate and close relations – how do you deal with their issue(s) successfully, help them through, and then switch back into your own ‘Excel Mode’, back on track?

It’s about recognising and appreciating the importance of ‘each’ moment, which ties into the core of your existence – your life – which is limited and being time-bound, we have to get the best and enough done in the ‘time’ we have and so that means working on our ‘focus’.

We need to keep in mind the above and work on a step by step method for regaining our focus.

Well, how do we do that?

Here’s how:

a) Appreciate your life as ‘Limited, Time-Bound and Precious’.

b) Your goals and ambitions are all time-bound – we have to achieve them in a specific time.

c) What is precious is cared for and looked after (like a small child/animal). So what is precious to you? Is your life precious?

d) Know that there is someone who you call on 24/7, 365 days without an appointment and without waiting in a queue and who will help you. Who? Allah.

e) Supplicate (make du’a) to Him and ask Him to help you.

f) Know that you’re a means by which Allah wants goodness for your loved one. He put you there to help them – He gives you the strength to help them.

g) Know that you can only help those who want to be helped – in the end it’s between them and God.

h) Be polite, assertive, direct, and confident when helping your loved ones – because you need to get back to your work/life/study – and there’s only so much you can do for someone.

i) Always leave them in a happy, positive state – leave them with du’as, ayahs, and hadiths – leave them hopeful, and insha’Allah they will soon see the light.

j) After you’ve helped them go back to your ‘Success Mantra’ (which we will create in a minute) and point #a above.

k) Eat healthy food, fruit, and vegetables; drink plenty of water; maintain light exercise daily; walk daily; be in nature (parks, trees, flowers); and listen to some Qur’an. Take a tech-break – no phones, TV, net, social media etc.

l) If the issues are seriously intense then do the above point #k at least three times (different things from the list insha’Allah to add variety); read your ‘Success Mantra’ again; read point #a above again – and you’ll soon be back on track and you’ll have regained your focus insha’Allah!

As I pointed out above, we need to fix the issues of our soul first and you know things will creep up but you have to create awareness and be ready to deal with them.

“Richness does not lie in the abundance of (worldly) goods but richness is the richness of the soul.” Sahih Muslim Book 5, Hadith 2287

So now we have regained our focus – it’s time to create our ‘Success Mantra’ insha’Allah.

I’m going to share mine with you. Use it as a template or be inspired to jot your own down. In fact, mine is not even a one word statement or one line sentence. It’s a whole paragraph and was inspired by a personal development book I read. Its pretty personal to me as I add the things that apply directly to me so you can add your own and personalise it insha’Allah.

It’s helped me to create laser focus and to get things done – alhamdulilah. And I read it daily!


***From this moment on I will do what I need to do in order to excel in my deen, my ibaadah, my spirituality, my studies, my work, my businesses, my health, my wealth, my relationships and my life! I will operate in ’150% EXCEL MODE turBo flow’ from now on in every aspect of my life and be the best. I’m tired of being second best. I will Excel. I choose to be Extremely Successful insha’Allah, ameen!*** :)

So, there you have it. My success mantra.

By the way success is allowed in Islam – when how we deal with it and how we use it is allowed.

Remember we have ‘One Life and One Chance’ to do good and right things. We should all have that ‘One Vision’: Jannah al-Firdaus. And to get there we have to pass the tests from this life. And Allah (SWT) grants success to whom He wills – in this world and the next!

{Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer – We will surely cause him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do.}

The Qur’an, Surah An-Nahl (chapter of the bee) 16:97

Are you ready to write YOUR ‘Success Mantra?’

Just before you create yours and read it I want you to do a quick exercise. This involves you getting into a peak state. Think of a time when you were really happy with your achievement (whatever it is). I want you to feel that moment throughout your body. I want you to smell all the smells associated with it. What things were going through your mind at that time? What were you feeling? Feel it. Use all your five senses. Increase the feeling. Make it very bright and visual. Make it into 3D. And when you’re at that peak state (or a halal happy high) write your mantra and start repeating it.

Say Bismillah and just go do it!

Hope that helped y’all! :)

Nadia Leona Yunis is a mentor and coach of Islamic personal and spiritual development for her organisation We Be Inspired and this article was first published on her We Be Inspired blog. She is also the Islamic Editor for Young Muslimah Magazine.

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Insha’Allah in our next main issue in February 2015 we’ll host interviews with Muslimah Etsy shopkeepers including Hafsa Taher and Hafsa Khizier….

“They say getting started is half the battle. Though that is true in some ways, staying consistent is the bigger battle.”

Hafsa Taher, of ‘HafsaCreates

Young Muslimah Magazine especially love her box ‘Eid cards masha’Allah.

“‘Reminders Benefit the Believers’ and I’m really greedy for a portion of other people’s reward. One of my friends has a good word for this: ‘ajr gremlin’. I need all that I can get!”

Hafsa Khizier, of the ‘TheReminderSeries

Young Muslimah particularly love Hafsa Khizier’s decorated notebooks masha’Allah.

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